"I am a grandmother, that emotion!" "Not for nothing, but my grandson is beautiful, just look at him that nose, just like his grandfather Toño" says Mrs. Mary to meet his first grandchild in the hospital. The arrival of his grandchild is so special as it was the marriage of his only daughter.
Rather, there are no words to describe the feelings that go beyond seeing the newest member of the family. If we could take a picture of how they see the grandparents in this very minute would erect two characters of royalty, proud and joyful.
It is a moment of inspiration to physically see a successor to their hopes and dreams through grandson. Start the "abuelitis."
Immediately grandmothers are prepared to care, assist and help new parents. Grandma Mary is going away to shop for everything you need to grandson. Look for blankets and shirts who used their own children, until he found a costume for when the baby is a couple of months. At home, start looking for pictures of her husband's childhood to show the similarity between his grandson and grandfather. The grandfather very happy going to the bank to open a savings account and grandson sharing with new people.
If, before he met his teammates to play with now have the excuse that it is "Grandpa." He bought his first cart and a basketball up and has seen the toys for Christmas. They take lots of pictures and made an album to show your friends. The main topic of conversation is "my grandson and my grandson ...". Definitely "abuelitis da heartily.
Just as the role of parents is of paramount importance, the role of grandparents has its value in family dynamics. The grandparents have been through this situation, imagine, Mrs. Mary and Mr. Toño had six children, what more experience than that.
Grandparents become a bridge between the new generation and the past. Is during this transition where family traditions are passed that are essential in the culture of society. In Panama, we have many cultures and to value those traditions are forming a child more completely. This is where family values are founded.
However, the grandparents have to understand that if the child fails to consult them at any given time is because she is wrapped in its own battle for independence.
It is further recommended that grandparents reserve their opinions unless asked. This prevents the friction between parents and grandparents, which in turn are inevitable because the "first experience." But if you make the special moment in a war very uncomfortable, preferably the "grandparents" take into account certain rules of diplomacy:
1. Listen to concerns and advise them if asked. Only physical presence in those early days is a very big gift.
2. Avoid comparisons: My son Ricardo stomach slept all night. By comparison, the message you can receive is, "I'm not doing well." However, be sure to encourage them that they are doing a good job.
3. Respect the feelings and the rules of the new parents. It is preferable to speak honestly if there are differences. Reach a compromise between what parents want and what the grandparents want to say about his grandson.
4. What they need, both grandparents and grandchild, is to have a space to take time and dedication. For example, sing lullabies, share stories, read a story, listen to music while riding, but just have a few weeks old.
5. Finally, give love and affection. Most likely they were raising their own children could not give them the time they had wanted. That "abuelitis" is synonymous with love.
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